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Bond better
- By Smitha Jain

Every relationship begins with promises and dwells in a constant strive to fulfil them. This is why after the honeymoon stage, every relationship goes through moments of crisis - disagreements, quarrels, misunderstanding or trivial fights. It requires a lot of time, patience, and understanding to get over these problems. Experts say, "The best thing you can do to make your relationship stronger in these trying times is talking it out with one another and making some commitments." Take your pre-marital or newly wedded stage as an opportunity to contemplate on your relationship and make some resolutions for a better, more transparent bonding.


Healthy communication is the key to a successful relationship. Promise to be verbal about your likes, dislikes and wants, but at the same time, make sure you are not argumentative about it. Find out whether they are in the right frame of mind before you start bombarding your partner with complaints. Resolve every conflict peacefully by analysing each other's points of view.

One common mistake most couples make is that they stop saying the three magical words 'I love you'. However, expressing your love for your partner is all the more important when it comes to a relationship - plan a surprise date or bring some gifts. These subtle gestures go a long way in strengthening your bond.

Look for the good things that they have done for you, and make it a point to compliment that every day. Everyone likes to be appreciated, so compliment on the beautiful dinner she has cooked or thank him when he helps out with the dishes.

Indulge in a leisure activity, like joining the gym, going for a morning walk or even taking a Salsa lesson together. This increases bonding between two people. Spending quality time together not only helps strengthen your bond but also keeps you feeling happy and accepted. It will help take your mind off other stressful things and focus on each other. Further, you can also take a vacation together at least once a month, even if it's just a weekend getaway.

As a couple, you are a unit. Therefore make it a point to work like one. Both of you need to be involved and take an active part in every decision-making. Be it the finances for the month or whom to invite for the weekend party, make sure you sit down and discuss. The evergreen reply, 'Whatever you do is fine with me' is not going to work anymore, it's time to be more responsible towards one another.

No matter how much time you spend together, it is equally important to have some space in your relationship. Pop culture may tell you to do everything under the sun together as a couple, but spending some time apart from each other is also necessary. Give your partner a breather once in a while and encourage them to go out with their friends.